I love the idea of a 'power pause' but I wish that nyt article interviewed non-married women and non-moms. I'm sure it looks way diff on one income and childless vs being in a dual income household and having to take on most of the childcare.
That's such a good point. It felt very one-note to me in the way that Lean In made me feel and I couldn't find the words to describe why. I also feel like it flattens/simplifies the experience for moms/married women as well. But I do also understand that an article can't be everything to everyone. I do think that a more in depth conversation needs to be had!!! It's still on my mind.
Also these women were earning very good money so they have a good economic safety net within which to purse this pause but I think the NYT audience can relate to them hence why the focus is on high-income married women over 40.
But I do relate to the fact that after a certain age, the drive to hustle starts to feel less urgent as you start to appreciate other facets of existing as a human and prioritize your own time over company time.
100%! Im so grateful it wasn't always like this but yes I think your points below are very perceptive.
"The one thought that keeps running through my head is this: Is the disillusionment so many people are feeling about work actually amplified by the fact that we’ve lost our social outlets?
When work is frustrating or isolating and there’s fewer parties, fewer happy hours, and no consistent social rhythm to offset it, that disillusionment festers. My hot take is that it’s probably led to people giving less grace and showing up more thorny in the workplace! Over time, our lives have become more self-contained, more transactional, more digital. And if work isn’t working and we’re not gathering nearly as much as we used to, how do people really blow off steam?!
So much of my workplace drama in my 20s was simply solved by the sentiment “I don’t have time for this, I have a party to get to”.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here, it made me read this through again and it still resonates. I'm also glad you agree that it wasn't always this way! I think naming it helps a lot.
I loved this roundup and now have a list of articles to get to! I agree that the lack of parties and social events is making everyone a bit more on edge, and I can’t wait to read from girl boss to no boss
Yessss would love your thoughts on them! I can’t stop thinking about the party one. Is this the new normal? I remember post pandemic shutdowns there being speculation about how we’d enter another roaring 20s but the reality is quite the opposite.
I love the idea of a 'power pause' but I wish that nyt article interviewed non-married women and non-moms. I'm sure it looks way diff on one income and childless vs being in a dual income household and having to take on most of the childcare.
That's such a good point. It felt very one-note to me in the way that Lean In made me feel and I couldn't find the words to describe why. I also feel like it flattens/simplifies the experience for moms/married women as well. But I do also understand that an article can't be everything to everyone. I do think that a more in depth conversation needs to be had!!! It's still on my mind.
Also these women were earning very good money so they have a good economic safety net within which to purse this pause but I think the NYT audience can relate to them hence why the focus is on high-income married women over 40.
But I do relate to the fact that after a certain age, the drive to hustle starts to feel less urgent as you start to appreciate other facets of existing as a human and prioritize your own time over company time.
100% and the appetite for "hustle" also feels different generation to generation. I'd love the idea of an "article club" for something like thissss
oh what do you mean 'article club'?
I made it up lol, same premise as a book club but for articles that warrant deeper discussion!
ohhh I dig it!
100%! Im so grateful it wasn't always like this but yes I think your points below are very perceptive.
"The one thought that keeps running through my head is this: Is the disillusionment so many people are feeling about work actually amplified by the fact that we’ve lost our social outlets?
When work is frustrating or isolating and there’s fewer parties, fewer happy hours, and no consistent social rhythm to offset it, that disillusionment festers. My hot take is that it’s probably led to people giving less grace and showing up more thorny in the workplace! Over time, our lives have become more self-contained, more transactional, more digital. And if work isn’t working and we’re not gathering nearly as much as we used to, how do people really blow off steam?!
So much of my workplace drama in my 20s was simply solved by the sentiment “I don’t have time for this, I have a party to get to”.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here, it made me read this through again and it still resonates. I'm also glad you agree that it wasn't always this way! I think naming it helps a lot.
I love your open tabs articles, feels like a free ticket into your mind, Ashley! 😂 very well curated and interesting reads!
Hahah, thank you Arzu!!! Open Tabs is so fun to write, I'm glad that comes across.
I loved this roundup and now have a list of articles to get to! I agree that the lack of parties and social events is making everyone a bit more on edge, and I can’t wait to read from girl boss to no boss
Yessss would love your thoughts on them! I can’t stop thinking about the party one. Is this the new normal? I remember post pandemic shutdowns there being speculation about how we’d enter another roaring 20s but the reality is quite the opposite.