Lovely post, and liked the point about self-effacy - knew what it was, didn't have a name for it!
With regards to drive, this can be a double-edged sword, as if you feel like you HAVE TO move forward, then this comes with its own pressures, burnout, not enjoying the moment, looking to the next goal/milestone to hit. If as high-achiever, you CHOOSE TO work hard, move forward, totally different feeling, different experience. How do you think high achievers can shift from ‘have to’ to ‘choose to’ in their daily lives?
Thank you so much Stavros!! Once I identified it, I knew that self-efficacy—the belief in your ability to succeed at specific tasks—was such a differentiator. There's something about knowing you can do the work that's different from being a generally confident person.
Totally hear you on drive—it's absolutely a double-edged sword, and I've been there myself. At the risk of sounding a bit 'woo woo' (lol), I think finding a connection to purpose is key. Or at least understanding why you're bending to the pressure and what you're getting out of it.
I'll use myself as an example. When I was at a point in my career when I felt like I 'had to,' I was trapped in a cycle of constantly seeking external validation. I justified the pressure, long hours, and nonstop work because I believed I needed the title, comp, or reputation to feel good about myself. But once I got clear on what I really wanted—autonomy, flexibility, control over my time, and the ability to help others—I started to prioritize those things. Now, there are days I don’t work, and I’m fine with it. Other times, I choose to work for days on end because I know it supports what I truly value. Hope that helps!
Lovely post, and liked the point about self-effacy - knew what it was, didn't have a name for it!
With regards to drive, this can be a double-edged sword, as if you feel like you HAVE TO move forward, then this comes with its own pressures, burnout, not enjoying the moment, looking to the next goal/milestone to hit. If as high-achiever, you CHOOSE TO work hard, move forward, totally different feeling, different experience. How do you think high achievers can shift from ‘have to’ to ‘choose to’ in their daily lives?
Thank you so much Stavros!! Once I identified it, I knew that self-efficacy—the belief in your ability to succeed at specific tasks—was such a differentiator. There's something about knowing you can do the work that's different from being a generally confident person.
Totally hear you on drive—it's absolutely a double-edged sword, and I've been there myself. At the risk of sounding a bit 'woo woo' (lol), I think finding a connection to purpose is key. Or at least understanding why you're bending to the pressure and what you're getting out of it.
I'll use myself as an example. When I was at a point in my career when I felt like I 'had to,' I was trapped in a cycle of constantly seeking external validation. I justified the pressure, long hours, and nonstop work because I believed I needed the title, comp, or reputation to feel good about myself. But once I got clear on what I really wanted—autonomy, flexibility, control over my time, and the ability to help others—I started to prioritize those things. Now, there are days I don’t work, and I’m fine with it. Other times, I choose to work for days on end because I know it supports what I truly value. Hope that helps!
Does this resonate with your experience?
That’s great stuff! That’s lovely with finding a connection to purpose being key for you.
That is what I’m doing for high-achievers. First clearing out internal resistance and then combining what their purpose is.
Thank you
Awesome - they're lucky to have your support!
Thank you for the kind words 😊💪